Gabsterz Everything Relationship's

Well, here it is, a little more of the back story that really inspired me to start this blog in the first place. I have been friends with this person for over 13 years and when we met I was going through a divorce and wasn’t in the state of mind to date anyone or even think about being in another relationship at that time. So, naturally she ends up getting with someone that I have known since high school since I wasn’t very receptive. We kept in contact throughout the years and she even got married to someone else other than the mutual friend I just mentioned and having a couple of kids and was living in Utah.

All the while I am here in Texas being the shoulder for her to cry on while she is in Utah. I wish I could remember all the intrinsic details of the countless hours that I would listen to her and what she was going through. Undoubtedly, we became very close over the years. Well, she ends up leaving Utah and coming back here and lo and behold gets back with the same mutual friend and they even have a kid together. They stay together for a little while until some self righteous wannabe goody two shoes decided to contact child protective services and eventually she ends up losing all of her kids because of poor decisions on everyone’s part. I can’t put the blame on one over the other because I was not a key player in any of this and they are both my friends. No one is perfect in this world and she was a good mother to those children and because one or both of the parents used drugs shouldn’t be an excuse to take anyone’s children away. I mean damn everyone uses drugs and alcohol and prescription drugs cause more problems than any other drugs combined.

So, I end up with two friends who are damaged forever and left to pick up the pieces however they can. I have a strong set of values and I am staunchly against having anything to do with someone who is in a relationship – be it married or seriously dating each other. I just don’t do it. She had tried a couple of times to get with me while she was in some grey areas that I refused and maintained my discipline out of respect to the whole situation. This past year, while he was locked up (nothing drug related). a situation occurred where another friend of ours was beating his girlfriend up led to her needing a place to stay and I had a house that I wasn’t even living in and I told her she couldn’t stay there because I really did not want to get involved with all of the drama that was going on. She ends up getting with a cousin of mine and moving in with him. She was still in a relationship with the friend that was locked up – another key reason I did not want to get involved because it was outside of my morals.

It wouldn’t be long before the one friend gets out of jail and they start having major and very dangerous interactions. The controlling and micromanaged relationships she always gets into and has I guess grown accustomed to rears it’s ugly head where the cousin ends up laying hands on her behind some over jealous reaction and he ends up going to jail. It wasn’t long after that both the cousin and friend are both in jail. So, now she is free from any relationship and just trying to make it by bouncing between a few people’s houses – mine was added to the list when she was having problems with another cousin of mine. So, we end up moving into my vacant house and started a complicated situation where we are now no longer platonic.

I have maintained my role as her best friend although she has adamantly told me she does not want to be in a relationship with me – just to stay friends. You can imagine the blow that this had on me. I mean after all of these years and how she wanted me all of those times in the past to now absolute rejection. This has been one of the most difficult chapters in my life and my inspiration to start this blog in the first place. I will continue telling this story with more details and hope that I gain some sort of following because I want to turn something good out of all of this.

Stay tuned for more of this story to make it’s way to you – I hope you enjoy.